XYZ of Trust and Betrayal

Have you ever been betrayed? Has anyone ever broken your trust? Have you ever confided into someone who gave you away? Has anyone been leaking your precious secrets?

Maybe yes. Or maybe you never came to know. Or maybe you always overlooked it due to some vague reason. Trust, faith, hope and consistency are just four words in the English dictionary but I guess the four corners of the square that completes your confidence in a person – may it be family or friend. I’m not much of a mathematician but I inferred something from what all I have studied. Life is like mathematics:

Step 1: We trust someone for the first time. Why? No reason. It’s an assumption which will be proved correct or contradicted according to the variables involved.

Step 2: Now that you have assumed you trust the person, you have faith in the person. And yes you tell your secrets and ask your questions. You assume you are sure that the person can be trusted and you have faith in him/her.

Step 3: All right..! Hit and trial sure does work here too. You do a little back bitching about the person and interpret the reactions. Either ways your final solution is not much affected. So hit and trial is just to validate step 2. Move ahead. Ok. You assumed you trust the person and hence in turn you have faith in him/her. (One concept yet to be introduced in mathematics is – emotions). You now hope that the person will not contradict your assumptions. This is an important step and cannot be overlooked. So you take your time and observe the persons behavior.

Step 4: Life may be like mathematics, but I must remind you that the time taken to solve the problem is totally different in both cases. So assuming you have spent considerable amount of your time in completing the above steps, you encountered some fallacies. A tool called self judgment is used here. Being professional students I expect you all to have well developed brains and know how to use it (and I would not be wasting any time to explain the same). So you use this tool to interpret the fallacies. Once you are satisfied and agree to proceed, you can finally see that you are closer to the solution.

Step 5: If you have successfully completed the steps then you can confidently say that there is consistency between you and the person above mentioned in the problem. Congratulations. You get an A grade in life problems.

Ha.! If only that were so simple. Till step 3 everything is smooth. Come the step 4, yes there comes the fallacies. You thought that the variables are just variables. Ha ha. Yes they sure are variables but alive and walking variables just like you, each having an individual set of brain to further complicate your already complex problem. Step 3 was not as helpful as thought. You back bit remember. Like you are solving the problem for some person similarly some person is solving their problem where you are the ‘person’. There you go. Once they reach their step 3, there is stuff about you (fake or true) spreading like wild fire. Though fake or true was mentioned in brackets, it is the most significant thing in the previous line. Iff the wild fire is fake you can proceed like before and be fortunate enough to reach step 5. Again congrats!
But wait. If it is true, you know who did it. Correct.! Here the results from the ‘self judgment’ are not so pleasing. Your assumptions are totally contradicted and as it is said “tera to katta ho gaya”. For this situation there is another step:

Recovery step: Forgive.! Try again. Maybe you screwed up the solution.
Nah…! I would never go for the recovery step. Or would I? Should I.?

Finally I would say you are the judge of yourself. And you are the student and teacher of this problem of yours. There will not be any mentor solving this for you. But if you are damn sure about the solution then just take a deep breath and say “It’s life man, had to happen.!” Forget it and move on. If it’s tough to move on, don’t worry time never stops - it will make you move on.

That’s what I call the X.Y.Z’s of Trust and Betrayal….!